So I have this big, glass bowl on my
counter in my kitchen.
It’s the bowl I use to put fruit in.
Sometimes I put a whole lot of fruit in,
and for whatever reason, we don’t get to it as quickly as I anticipate.
But I’m never the first to notice when it’s
been in there a little too long. And it’s not the fruit that I notice first.
It’s the gnats.
First it’s one or two, then the next thing
I know I can’t have a cup of coffee or glass of wine for fear of ambush.
And by then, the war has begun.
There are vinegar traps on the counters,
and weaponry such as rolled-up newspaper is required to pass through the
kitchen.
Now, I’m told this is because “nobody knows
where they’re coming from”, but I don’t really believe that’s true.
Although, To be fair, I suppose that may be
the case some percentage of the time.
No, this is because nobody wants to pick up
the fruit that LOOKS perfectly fine, and see that it’s runny, and mushy, and
nasty underneath.
Because once they do that, they have to
deal with it. And wash out the bowl. And quite honestly, that’s work. And
sometimes it smells bad.
My spiritual fruit flies are questions-
“nagging gnats” if you will.
Things like:
What does living my faith every day really
mean?
What does living in service to others mean?
What is this feeling inside me that there’s
something bigger, and what do I do with it?
Do I have pain keeping me from growing
spiritually?
Is my pain keeping others from growing
spiritually?
What are the messages I’m giving my kids
about religion and spirituality?
What is the role of community in my life?
What is my role in community?
Community. Let me diverge and Let’s talk
our community for just a second.
On my first visit to UFL I called the place
a “church”.
As some of you who have been here for a
while can imagine, I was immediately corrected.
Ooohhhhh, this is not a church, this is a
Fellowship. “we” don’t call it that.
This didn’t just happen once.
After some time here, I felt comfortable
enough asserting myself to respond that to ME, this IS a church, and I will
call it such. (Yes, there was a time when I was quiet about this type of thing!)
Oh. My. Gawd.
This group is made up of some of the most open
minded, accepting, intelligent, caring, and loving people I have ever met;
there are Christians who count among our membership- yet somehow, I still find myself frequently
called to explain that this is my spiritual home and I find meaning in the word,
so that’s why I use it. That’s frustrating to me.
Guess what? We have fruit flies.
In one of the offices where I recently
worked, we had- without fail- a little, flying, black bug problem every
spring. This is what it was called.
Emails went out about the “little flying black bugs”. If we called them gnats, there was without
fail someone with expert level flying-bug knowledge working for us who was more
than happy to let us know what the
“LFBB”s should actually be called. I don’t remember all of the names,
but they weren’t “gnat” or “fruit fly” and they weren’t ever the same.
There were traps set, there were rules
about food and trash. We dealt with the issue all spring and summer and most of
the fall and then the problem would just kind of go away, and everybody would
forget about it until the next spring.
Of course, the next spring would come, and
we would start seeing one or two little flying black bugs. And then there were
more. And soon there were more and more. Despite the rules. Despite the traps.
This happened for years. Until one year
when someone realized that the LFBBs seemed to be coming from the plants that so
many people had on their desks and in their offices.- not just any plants; the
ones that management had given to everyone when we moved into the space. See, most
were still in the same small pot and sterile potting soil they had been in when
they were purchased- they hadn’t grown or really been fed at all. They were
stagnant. Apparently LFBBs LOOOOVE that
kind of environment, especially when their eggs hatch in the spring.
And so the final rule was made. Take your
plants home. And everybody did. Not all at once, but eventually there were no
more plants in the office.
And the flying black bugs slowly
disappeared. I have a sneaking suspicion that really what happened is that they
dispersed into homes throughout the Lawrence, KC, and Topeka areas. Maybe some
got taken care of, maybe some didn’t. … but I have to say that I really missed
the plants. I personally wish we could
have had a repotting party in the parking lot, so we could have given everyone fresh,
fertile soil. Not to mention, we wouldn’t have just been dispersing the
problem.
But back to my “nagging gnats”.
While the questions I have are incredibly
personal questions, it’s recently come to my attention that they are not
necessarily questions that I can or should answer on my own.
I’ve lost count how many times I’ve given
my “UU elevator speech” over the past few weeks. Now, I’ve used the term “elevator speech” just
about as many times and have received some interesting looks. (some similar to
asparagus growing out of my head)
An “elevator speech” is a speech that you
can give about a topic in the time that you are in an elevator with someone. I
am told that at one time they were 30-45 seconds long, but I can’t remember the
last time I was on an elevator ride that took that long. 10-15 seconds is what
you have now.
I
borrowed heavily from Rev. Scott McNeil to create my UU elevator speech- and
I’d like to share it with you now.
We are a religion born out of liberal Christianity that believes
that everybody takes their own path to get to their capital “T” Truth, but it’s
better and more fun if we do it together.
So what’s my point?
These are heavy questions! These are Really
HARD questions that don’t have easy answers. In fact, they maybe don’t have
answers at all.
But if we’re all on this journey together,
and helping each other check for fruit flies, or LFBBs- that is, at least
ASKING the hard questions, and hanging in there together to see where the
search for the answers may lead; then to me I think we’re on the right path.
That fruit bowl on my counter never stays
empty. And inevitably there are more fruit flies. Because getting rid of them last time didn’t
get rid of all fruit flies for all time.
But now I try to pay more attention when
they start to show up.
Because nobody likes fruit flies in their
drinks.
We can do this.
May it be so.
originally delivered at the Unitarian Fellowship of Lawrence, August 2012